Looking back I've deflected with "fine" at some of the darkest periods of my life. The reason isn't always the same; shame, numbness, or even pure exhaustion at the thought of having to explain my feelings makes me want to sink even deeper into the void.
But you're spot on; the consistent thing there is the shield/mask/blocker to connection and help. Thank you, beautifully written.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post and your kind words.
We’ve all been through it in one way or another and have more reasons for deflecting than we’d like to admit. Even being convinced those closest ‘won’t get it’. It’s a sad truth, but a truth nonetheless.
Nice work Ben - and thanks for the link to my efforts. You write with compassion and honesty and I like it. Welcome to the blog party and don't get obsessed with the stats (as I have).
I'll make a promise to myself that I won't, which almost certainly means I'll be aimlessly eyeing the readership figures in a month's time, wondering why it isn't increasing.
Looking back I've deflected with "fine" at some of the darkest periods of my life. The reason isn't always the same; shame, numbness, or even pure exhaustion at the thought of having to explain my feelings makes me want to sink even deeper into the void.
But you're spot on; the consistent thing there is the shield/mask/blocker to connection and help. Thank you, beautifully written.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post and your kind words.
We’ve all been through it in one way or another and have more reasons for deflecting than we’d like to admit. Even being convinced those closest ‘won’t get it’. It’s a sad truth, but a truth nonetheless.
yeppp, "fine" has definitely been my default answer more times than i can count, and you’re right. it shuts the door on real connection.
thank you for putting words to something i think so many of us feel but don’t always admit. looking forward to reading more of your series.
…and thank you for reading and taking the time to engage, it means a lot! If you do stick around, I hope you enjoy more of the posts.
I'm so pleased that you've decided to do this, Ben - the world needs more of this. Well done and thank you for continuing to champion GoodEnoughChats.
Thanks Dan, for taking the time to read the post but also for all you've done with GoodEnoughChats too
Nice work Ben - and thanks for the link to my efforts. You write with compassion and honesty and I like it. Welcome to the blog party and don't get obsessed with the stats (as I have).
I'll make a promise to myself that I won't, which almost certainly means I'll be aimlessly eyeing the readership figures in a month's time, wondering why it isn't increasing.